Model and influencer Suellen Carey ended her year-long marriage to herself, a commitment known as «violent». Carey, 37, revealed that she made the decision to divorce because the personal commitment process left her «exhausted.»
The news of the marriage in 2023 caused an international stir, especially after the influencer documented the unique celebration in front of her 400,000 followers on Instagram. Originally from Brazil, but living in London, Carey had sparked a debate about self-commitment and self-love through their union.
«This celebration is important because I learned to prioritize my well-being and mental health. In my vows, I wrote and declared my commitment to caring for and valuing my self-love,» she wrote in an Instagram post dated September 21 of that year.
Despite the initial celebration and commitment, your relationship with yourself faced serious difficulties. Carey explained to the British media The Mirror who realized that «self-reflection and self-analysis are essential,» but also came to understand that «even commitment to oneself can have its challenges.»
Suellen Carey, a Brazilian influencer based in London, married herself in 2023, a practice known as «sologamy.» Photo: Instagram/Suellencarey.uk.The main obstacle he faced during the year of «sologamy» was the intense personal pressure. «I realized that I was putting a lot of pressure on myself. myself and that sometimes left me exhausted,» she declared.
This pressure centered on the expectation of being «perfect for herself all the time»a standard of self-demand that ultimately became unsustainable.
Suellen Carey’s emotional journey: from self-commitment to self-discovery
In an attempt to save her commitment, the influencer sought professional help. Carey attended a total of ten therapy sessions as a couple, although she did it completely alone.
Despite therapeutic efforts to overcome internal problems, Carey concluded that divorce was his only option viable.
However, the divorce was not easy. Being a legally recognized union, the British judicial system faced an unprecedented casesince the legislation did not contemplate the possibility of a separation «from oneself.» Finally, after a long and complex process, Suellen managed to annul her marriage.
Despite therapeutic efforts to overcome internal problems, Carey concluded that divorce was her only viable option. Photo: Instagram/Suellencarey.uk.The model explained that the experience led her to a deep understanding of her own imperfections. «I understood that even in a marriage with ourselves, It is important to accept our imperfections«he reflected.
Despite the outcome, Carey does not regret her solo adventure. She described her «sologamy» journey as an «enriching experience». «I realized that my solo marriage was a process of healing and self-discovery,» she added.
At the end of this cycle, the influencer decided that it is time to «open your heart to new possibilitiesincluding the opportunity to find a partner.»
