Gabriel Rolon He left a definition of a couple that points against emotional dependence: “The only couple that is really worth it is the one formed by two people who can be very well alone.” He said it in an interview with a Spanish media when talking about the sloneliness, desire and love.
Also a psychoanalyst, writer, radio presenter, musician and actor, he is famous for his participation in various radio and television programs. He has years of participation in renowned programs such as «Revenge will be terrible» next to Alejandro Dolinawhere he occupied the place of the analyst and who had his «feet on the ground» amidst so much humor from others.
He is currently a columnist for the program «Street Dogs«, previously on Radio Metro and now on Urbana Play, hosted by Andy Kusnetzoff. There he talks about various topics in psychology, couples and human relationships in general.
Gabriel Rolón’s phrase about the couple and loneliness
He said this phrase in a report to the newspaper The voice of Galiciafrom Spain, when the interviewer asked him about loneliness and anguish. Rolón explains in his response that, sometimes, the fear of emptiness that loneliness can bring is so deep that people cling to what hurts them.
In this sense, he gave the example of someone who is drowning in the middle of the ocean «and you grab the shark if it happens…», he drew the parallel. He explained that with loneliness it can happen that many people They are immersed in bonds where they are not loved not even well treated, but they are more afraid of being alone.
«I think that the only couple that is really worthwhile is the one formed by two people who can be very well alone. Because they are people who choose each other.» not from the fear of lonelinessneither from anguish nor from the mandate, but they choose to be together because life is more beautiful together, not because it is essential,» he highlighted in this sense.
What difference does Rolón make between need and desire?
The phrase summarizes one of the fundamental premises of modern attachment psychology: the difference between want and need. The Argentine expert highlighted this difference and said that if it is a need «for you I will kill myself» or «I can endure anything», that is the beginning of a «path of great suffering, that of the need for love.»
«In short, when one fears loneliness so much, one must think that the only thing in loneliness is oneself,» said Rolón. In modern psychology it is proposed that one does not have a «better half» to complete him. A healthy relationship is not the sum of two halves, but two wholes.
An antecedent or parallel with the psychology of Erich Fromm (1900-1980), a prominent German philosopher and psychoanalyst in whose book «The Art of Loving» (1956) distinguishes between mature love («I love you because I love you«) and childish love («I love you because I need you«).
