Boris Cyrulnik -famous neurologist, psychiatrist and recognized as the «father of resilience»-, at 88 years old, brings to the fore the value of experiences when you reach 60 years of age.
Following his philosophy, as described in a Men’s Health article, time becomes a concrete matter in the body when this decade is reached and personal reconstruction takes on new nuances and rules.
“The certainties that sustained us until that moment are beginning to crack”warns Cyrulnik. As clarifications, the Men’s Health note indicates that at this stage professional performance is no longer central, economic growth is no longer an objective in itself and, then, a more selective look at priorities appears.
In this sense, according to the position of Cyrulniktime becomes an ally. Also, a faithful mirror,
“When we reach 60 years of age we can no longer deceive ourselves. The body, memory and emotions speak together without hesitation«says the expert. This coincidence forces a form of honesty with oneself that could previously have been postponed.
Resilience at 60
For this age, when the blows and circumstances of life force a personal reconstruction, Cyrulnik distinguished: «Those who have learned to live with their wounds tend to move forward more solidly. Those who have avoided them may feel disarmed when the pace of their lives slows down.»
In maturity, taking the position of several authors, that response is no longer based on urgency or appearance. If not, in deeper, essential and unbreakable values.
In the words of Cyrulnik, “What keeps us alive is not the absence of wounds, but how you have learned to live with them”.
In the same line, Marcus Aureliuswho was emperor of Roman empirewrote several centuries before: “The mind will take the form of that which it frequently contemplates.”.
Boris Cyrulnik: from a tough childhood to the development of the concept of resilience
Cyrulnikrelates a note from the Psicoactiva site, was born in France in the conflictive 1930s. His family was of Jewish origin and was persecuted by the State.
To protect him, his parents took him to a boarding house. He was then transferred to French public assistance and adopted by a governess brothel, Marguerite Ferrywho hid it in his house. Meanwhile, he never heard from his parents again.
At only 5 or 6 years old, I work on a farm under a false name, Jean Laborde. As is easy to imagine, these early experiences marked his life.
Miraculously, he obtained the necessary money to be able to enroll in the Paris Faculty of Medicinewhere he specialized in neurology, psychiatry and psychoanalysis.
Throughout his professional career, he dedicated himself to the treatment of children with trauma y other behavioral problems and social exclusion and research is resilience. Furthermore, he is a man very committed to peace.
